Steven Kalas is the author of “Human Matters: Wise and Witty Counsel on Relationships, Parenting, Grief and Doing the Right Thing” (Stephens Press). His columns appears in several community newspapers.
Links provided below are for articles written since Jan 2015.
2020
03/06/2020 Post Marital Dating Rules
02/25/2020 Divorce is hell … but
02/19/2020 Meet Triumph and Disaster two Impostors, just the same
02/12/2020 Worst Shaolin Priest Ever
02/05/2020 It’s Not All About Us
01/29/2020 Spousal Abuse Question
01/22/2020 Justice is Not Revenge
01/15/2020 Contemplating ‘Sophie’s Choice’
01/08/2020 Go … Do … Redeem your Past
01/012020 Experiences Top Possessions
2019
12/26/2019 Still Transfixed by the Crèche Scene
12/18/2019 Childbirth: Expecting the Unexpected
12/11/2019 How do Human Beings come to Feel Worthwhile?
12/04/2019 Advice on Grieving During the Holidays – Sparks
11/20/2019 When Being ‘Mean’ Helps
11/13/2019 Dreams I’m Ready to Chase
11/06/2019 Deep Love in Blended Family
10/30/2019 Justice Matters but Redemption Matters More
10/02/2019 I’m Disappointed in You’
09/25/2019 What We Don’t Say at the End
09/18/2019 It Was the Best I Could Do
08/28/2019 Remember the Fable of ‘The Fox and The Lion’
08/21/2019 The Sands of Love
08/14/2019 Oh, That Alien Feeling Called Love
08/07/2019 When is a Complaint Legitimate?
07/31/2019 The Good/Bad Side of Religious Guilt
07/24/2019 Admire, Behold and See Your Children
07/17/2019 Trust: You Don’t Learn, You Decide
07/12/2019 Manhood Stands for Itself
07/09/2019 Healing a marriage is 50/50 work
06/26/2019 Learn to say, I take it back
06/19/2019 The world needs good fathers
06/17/2019 Oh, those ‘little’ wisdom books
6/08/2019 ‘Blade Runner’ most brilliant of the dystopia films
05/29/2019 You can’t not have faith
05/22/2019 It is not a flaw to need
05/22/2019 Old sayings that are so untrue
05/08/2019 Yes, you can love more
05/01/2019 Are you gonna call it in?
04/24/2019 A good life is a balanced life
04/17/2019 My friends are blind and lame
04/10/2019 God talks to you? Really?
04/03/2019 Building wings while you fall
03/29/2019 Action makes words credible
03/21/2019 Forgiveness and being forgiven
03/13/2019 In the presence of evil
03/07/2019 Getting smaller; less judgemental
02/27/2019 Internet’s culture of voyeurism
02/22/2019 Adventures in human discovery
02/13/2019 Dealing with ‘The Addict’
02/07/2019 Finding true love requires two questions
01/31/2019 I don’t tell couples to divorce, but…
01/24/2019 In death – each to their own
01/17/2019 The great mystery: Change just happens
01/10/2019 Like piranha, we attack weakness
01/02/2019 The Powerful Pool of Nostagia
2018
12/19/2018 The Pool Table of Life
12/12/2018 The Stranger Things in a Marriage
12/05/2018 Nike Therapy: Just Do it’
11/28/2018 Children Need to Be Admired
11/21/2018 When Kids Use ‘Bad’ Words
11/13/2018 Standing by Your Word
11/09/2018 I’m trying to forgive, but how?
10/31/2018 Saying ‘Enough’ Begins Change
10/23/2018 Don’t Tread on Me
10/17/2018 Does Your Love Show?
10/10/2018 Are You My Mother? No, and Hell No – Sparks
10/02/2018 Two Kinds of Shame
9/26/2018 Redemption Is Everyman’s Story
9/19/2018 Sorry, Anonymous Doesn’t Cut It
9/12/2018 Of Real Marriage and Divorce
8/28/2018 Parents, Children and Our Flaws
8/21/2018 Exclusive Sex Is the Best Sex
8/14/2018 You Don’t Have to Die to Go to Hell
8/4/2018 Tips on Raising that ‘Devil Daughter’
7/31/2018 Learning to Control Your Wake
7/24/2018 The Dance of Cynicism and Skeptism
7/17/2018 Know Your Limits, Then Reach for the Skies
7/3/2018 The Real Marriage Vows
6/25/2018 The Quintessential Freudian Slip
6/19/2018 Humor: The Best Medicine
5/31/2018 Ahh, the Joys of Disneyland
5/24/2018 Meet the Acronym ‘SOBER’
5/16/2018 Mother’s Day Is the Worst? What’s up with That?
5/11/2018 If You Want to Change Your Life Change Your Questions
4/28/2018 ‘No, I Am Far from Being Ok’
4/13/2018 Live Well and Free
4/14/2018 Family Bonds That Enslave Us
4/09/2018 Live Well and Free
3/30/2018 In Relationships, Accountability Matters
3/24/2018 Warriors and Punks
3/17/2018 Not Everyone Needs a Medical Label
2/27/2018 Authenticity Requires Your Self
2/20/2018 Advice on Watching Your Teen
2/18/2018 Love Is a Happening, Not a Decision
2/11/2017 Thinking about Injustice
2/5/2018 Modern Masculine Struggle
1/27/2018 Strive More for Truth Than Honesty
1/20/2018 Men Can’t Cry; Women Can’t Get Angry
1/14/2018 Morality Aside: Porn Is Ridiculous
1/6/2018 Yes, You Can Sense Impending Awareness
1/1/2018 Taking Inventory of Your Cupboard
2017
12/17/2017 Babies Change Everything
12/8/2017 ‘You Need to Get You a Mexican’
12/2/2017 ‘I Love You, and I’ll Never Leave You’
11/25/2017 ‘Honest Hallmark’ Greeting Cards
11/18/2017 Who Wants to Die Alone?
11/13/2017 Men: Never Lose the Joy of the Boy Within
11/7/2017 Divorce Alters Kid’s View of ‘Mom’Ndadness’
10/27/2017 When the Spouse Disappears from the Marriage
10/16/2017 A Son’s Text: ‘I’m Alive so Far’
10/5/2017 Hey, Kaepernick, Let’s Have a Beer
9/20/2017 Stages of A Loving Relationship
9/7/2017 Know Your Limits and Be Free
8/24/2017 Mean People Suck the Joy Out of Being
8/11/2017 Reaction is Revenge; Action is Justice
8/6/2017 There’s no Escape Plan in Love
7/30/2017 Great love? Stare down your fears
7/22/2017 Rules for lovers who text
7/7/2017 OK girls, meet your Gravitas
6/23/2017 Vulgarity Won’t Make America Great
6/16/2017 Listen up, guys, get a load of Sophia
6/3/2017 Don’t kid yourself: Divorce is forever
5/25/2017 Finding healthy soothing techniques
5/18/2017 Imagine interaction in pure innocence
5/11/2017 ‘My, what big eyes you have’
5/4/2017 Regression is common and treatable
4/30/2017 ‘Yes, I’m giving you an ultimatum’
4/21/2017 Jumping headfirst into the future
4/13/2017 Harrowing journey of truth, beauty and selfhood
4/7/2017 ‘Take a breath and freakin’ forgive me’
3/25/2017 Sadly, some fear racial healing
3/16/2017 Ahh, living the imperfect life
3/9/2017 True fidelity isn’t only about sex
3/4/2017 Redemption or bitterness? Choose redemption
2/24/2017 If it’s not one thing, it’s your mother
2/17/2017 Kelly Ann Conway: The Princess of pivot
2/10/2017 The intimacy of living whole
2/2/2017 We Long for Close Relationships
1/19/2017 The Moment I Became a Grandfather
1/6/2017 The Horror of ‘The Blog Age’
2016
12/22/2016 Make No Mistake: Evil is Real
12/16/2016 Highest Calling: Standing Up to Evil
12/10/2016 Women and beauty: It’s complicated
11/30/2016 The Girl Questions…the Guy Brain
11/24/2016 The Holidays: Perfect Storm for Those Who Grieve
11/16/2016 Sorry, Mr. Trump, My Honor is Non-Negotiable
11/10/2016 Story of a boy hit by a teacher
11/5/2016 Laughter and Globetrotters: Times changing
10/27/2016 In Gliding I Become Utterly Myself
10/21/2016 Trump talk: I don’t have friends like that
10/15/2016 The Healthy Journey of Leaving Home
10/8/2016 You Can’t Teach a Pig to Sing
10/2/2016 Yoga is Worship – it Crucifies You
9/24/2016 Is Sex Key to Winning a Man?
9/22/2016 N.W. in San Rafael asks must I have sex to compete?
9/15/2016 Empathy’s dark cousin – sadism
9/2/2016 Nurturing the Gift of Empathy
8/24/2016 The making of a good cop
8/19/2016 Duplicity Creeps Me Out – in Politics and Marriage
8/13/2016 Raising the Dreaded Teenager
8/6/2016 Part 2 on Surviving Adultery: Assemble a Circle of Support
8/1/2016 How Marriage Survives an Affair
7/19/2016 The disconnect of a modern homemaker
7/13/2016 Trust your gut – if your gut is trustworthy
7/6/2016 Selfless love requires self respect
2015
10/26/2015 Ego, like time, just slips away
10/17/2015 When your spouse is unhappy, ask why
10/4/2015 Doing the right thing matters more than the reason why
9/27/2015 ‘Stitching together’ should be our goal
9/19/2015 Step back, let kids solve own problems
9/13/2015 The Parent Esteem Apocalypse is upon us
8/30/2015 History deserves honest retelling
8/25/2015 We can’t help but judge book covers
8/25/2015 You have got to laugh or cry
8/10/2015 Friendship can continue after love ends
8/5/2015 Understand the motive behind a lie
7/24/2015 Flag debate rages in readers’ responses
7/17/2015 Time for the naive to wake up to symbolism of Confederate flag
7/12/2015 Celebrities can lift us up and let us down
7/5/2015 Learning to hurt so that we don’t harm
6/28/2015 Love is the simple measure of life
6/21/2015 It’s hard work to have a good marriage
6/14/2015 Fatherhood is its own reward
6/7/2015 Notions of male, female far from archaic
5/31/2015 Marriage exposes us, good and bad
5/24/2015 It’ll take more than a bubble bath to cure your stress
5/17/2015 A time to say goodbye to dreams
5/10/2015 Hero or abuser? Neither
5/3/2015 Being a good parent is tough
4/26/2015 Thriving marriages a gift to all
4/19/2015 Last week’s column was not about Larry’s Meats, at all, got it?
4/11/2015 Commerce holds upper hand in debate on religious freedom
4/5/2015 Darkness happens; we can opt for light
3/28/2015 Mothers help sons by setting boundaries for themselves
3/21/2015 People with disabilities deserve empathy, not shock
3/14/2015 Bonds that untie, moment by barely noticeable moment
3/7/2015 Yes, Virginia, there is an Easter bunny
2/28/2015 No gray of any shade: Great sex isn’t narcissistic conscription
2/21/2015 As Euclid reasoned, something is … or it isn’t
2/15/2015 Martyred bishop, randy birds and Valentine’s Day
2/7/2015 Managing relationships sometimes necessary
2/2/2015 If courtship’s still fragile, don’t involve the children
1/25/2015 Freedom of speech comes with responsibility
1/18/2015 Raising kids’ emotional security with alchemy, empathy
1/12/2015 The fault’s not in the stars, but the brain chemistry
1/12/2015 Excuse me a minute while I recombobulate …